Master Life Coach, podcaster, business owner, and entrepreneur, Brenda Lomeli didn’t take a direct path to becoming a life coach. After a career in occupational therapy and a quest to find solutions to why she wasn’t losing weight, Brenda educated herself with her master’s degree, a certification as a nutritionist and if that wasn’t enough, she received whole foods culinary training. All of this and yet she still struggled with weight, food, and her body image for decades. She was successful in all areas of her life, except for when it came to her weight. Everything changed though when she became a certified master life coach and within 9 months, she lost 80lbs and was armed with the answers she’d been looking for all her life.
You’re going to learn things on your journey and it won’t be organized, but it will be yours.
What we’re talking about
- Learning Emotional Management & Self-Care Tools
- Creating Change From A Place Of Deserving More
- Staying With Yourself
Learning Emotional Management & Self-Care Tools
Brenda had learned all she could about food and nutrition and exercised regularly, yet she still hadn’t found the missing link to help her lose 80lbs. She discovered the idea of emotional management and self-care and took all of those tools to create a program for her clients. These tools help us take care of ourselves by learning how to zoom out and take an aerial view of your life and emotions. Ask yourself what you want in life? Why do you feel burnt out? Instead of reaching for the tubs of popcorn or bottle of wine as your escape button, ask yourself how you’re feeling. These questions will become useful for you to build and create shifts in your life.
Creating Change From A Place Of Deserving More
Losing weight is often accompanied by thoughts that we don’t look good and we have become self-critical. Brenda shares how taking the position that losing weight is a way of taking care of ourselves and that the solution isn’t learning about food but about learning the emotional self-care tools we need so that we are no longer use food to try to solve problems that it can’t. A great reminder that Brenda shares is that change has to come from a place within which we know we deserve more. We have to make the switch from being our biggest critic to our best friend. Yes, hormones, age, having kids are all factors, but what you eat and drink can either help or hurt these factors, therefore you have to make better choices. Become a partner with your body.
Staying With Yourself
Don’t take the position that you have to cut everything bad out. Be strategic about what you do. Instead of having wine every night, have it just a couple of times a week, let yourself enjoy popcorn at the movies. Make the change for yourself and stop judging yourself. When you feel the urge to go against the new choices you want to make for yourself, stop and get curious. Stay with the feelings you’re having and discover what they are and why you’re feeling them. Curiosity over judgement will always help you understand things quicker and create change that feels loving and lasting. Don’t abandon yourself if you feel stressed. Allow yourself to feel your feelings. You will become unstoppable because you know you can take on anything and any feeling.
Are you ready to become your own best friend?